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DV-Effects on children

Children often know when violence or abuse is happening at home. They may show some of the below behaviours.

Pre-school children;

  • Complains of aches and pains
  • Anxious
  • Bedwetting
  • Sleep disturbance - insomnia, heightened fear of the dark, resisting bedtime
  • Withdrawal
  • Lack of trust/ability - unable to relate appropriately to adults
  • Fear of a particular person or gender/frozen watchfulness
  • Self destructive behaviours/aggression
  • Being very helpful, eager to please
  • Fear or reflection of non threatening touch

Primary school age children;

  • Continuing physical complaints
  • Approval-seeking behaviour
  • Withdrawn and passive
  • Low tolerance or infinite patience
  • Acting as mothers little helper or teachers little helper
  • Temper tantrums
  • Fighting/bullying siblings and or classmates

On adolescents;

  • Escape into drug or alcohol abuse
  • Running away from home (or almost never being at home)
  • Suicidal thoughts and actions
  • Homicidal or violent thoughts and actions
  • Criminal activities
  • Poor self esteem
  • Difficulties with friends
  • Dont feel sorry for victims
  • Struggling to learn
  • Early pregnancy
  • Exclusion from school
  • Belief that violent/abusive relationships are normal

Alternatively they may display extreme positive behaviour;

  • Excellent academic work
  • Perfectionist standards (having strong fear of failure)
  • Being overly responsible for siblings, especially if the oldest

 
Support

If you have concerns about your children and feel they may need some support speak to their school, Health Visitor or School Nurse or Social Worker if you have one. If you have concerns about a child you suspect is suffering from the effects of DV you can tell Social Services at the Council.

  • Complains of aches and pains
  • Anxious
  • Bedwetting
  • Sleep disturbance - insomnia, heightened fear of the dark, resisting bedtime
  • Withdrawal
  • Lack of trust/ability - unable to relate appropriately to adults
  • Fear of a particular person or gender/frozen watchfulness
  • Self destructive behaviours/aggression
  • Being very helpful, eager to please
  • Fear or reflection of non threatening touch
  • Continuing physical complaints
  • Approval-seeking behaviour
  • Withdrawn and passive
  • Low tolerance or infinite patience
  • Acting as mothers little helper or teachers little helper
  • Temper tantrums
  • Fighting/bullying siblings and or classmates
  • Escape into drug or alcohol abuse
  • Running away from home (or almost never being at home)
  • Suicidal thoughts and actions
  • Homicidal or violent thoughts and actions
  • Criminal activities
  • Poor self esteem
  • Difficulties with friends
  • Dont feel sorry for victims
  • Struggling to learn
  • Early pregnancy
  • Exclusion from school
  • Belief that violent/abusive relationships are normal

Alternatively they may display extreme positive behaviour;

  • Excellent academic work
  • Perfectionist standards (having strong fear of failure)
  • Being overly responsible for siblings, especially if the oldest

If you have concerns about your children and feel they may need some support speak to their school, Health Visitor or School Nurse or Social Worker if you have one. If you have concerns about a child you suspect is suffering from the effects of DV you can tell Social Services at the Council